Who Are You?

Day 10 of 30 day Minimalist Challenge

Who are you?

Day 10 journal of my 30 day Minimalist Challenge

On 1-5-2020, I was reminded that I need accountability. I never voiced this until recently.

My mother never checked on me because she knew I would land on my feet.

In listening to the audiobook,

13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don’t Do [electronic resource] / by Amy Morin,

I realized that I have been living my life this way… without accountability. I’m the one who checks on others. And I never required, requested or demanded that people look in on me… to check up on my status in one area or another.

Even my husband has seen me as a Super Woman! I did have two lady friends around 2014 who were good at checking up on me. And when they moved away, I was devastated. Though I couldn’t understsnd my deep grief over their departure.

It was stemmed back to the familial saying, “Nek’ka always lands on her feet”. These two ladies gave me what I was missing… then they were gone.

I mentioned this a few days ago, in my minimalist challenge blog, that I’ve hired a couple of coaches for 2020. The year for praises and not complaints. So I’m incorporating my own helps and hand holding.

I’ve had mentors over the past 20 years and while I was given assignments, so many other areas of my life were unattended to or overlooked.

In Amy’s book, she was relaying a story of how a women’s family of origin had nicknames for all the kids and she was living up to hers even subconsciously. This woman didn’t examine her life to see if that label resonated with who she identified as an individual.

And I never shook off that label, “she’ll always land on her feet”. It’s good to know or believe that. But how is that suppose to happen?

When I land on my feet, are my ankles sometimes twisted? Did I break my legs landing on my feet because I had no assistance? I never saw negative in that statement. I was just doing my best to live up to that expectation.

Don’t get me wrong, I have some really good friends that I can call when needed. And we’re all busy with our daily lives. When I see them, we all get caught up on the latest happenings and have a good laugh. And then I go back to my world of “landing on my feet”… alone, as it were.

What childhood or early adult nicknames or statements are you trying to live up to? Do they resonate with your true identity, your core being? Write your comments below.



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My Identity Shapes My Activity


Actions Follow Identity

In watching and listening to the video listed below, I was struck by the phrase, “Has my identity shaped my activity?”

I recently had an opportunity to enter a business deal for the purpose of making lots of money. As I sat there listening to the pitch, I felt I had already answered that question expressing “no interest” in joining this person’s business in previous interactions. I was simply meeting them in person for possible future referrals.

Well, anyone who knows me probably would not descibes me as money hungry. Yet this salesperson was determined to play on that chord…like I would hear something and jump. Are you a salesperson like that?

Knowing my identity in Christ to obey and follow God’s leading, I told this person that if God wanted me in this business, I would be there tomorrow. (I’ve told many people this.) I try to give myself a chance to sleep on the matter before I give a definite answer.

I felt this question had been answered weeks ago and this person didn’t get MY answer. Maybe they thought I had changed my mind or that they could convince me to join.

As I consider single parents out there, how many potential mates how come on strong like this? You say, No, and they are still trying to turn your No into a Yes. Is your identity in your marital status? I had that hangup during my 16 years as a stay at home single mom. 

Today, my identity is in Christ and not money, fame, worldly success or marital status.

Thank you God for good friends with whom I can  share my frustrations and good friends who keep pointing me back to You, Your will and Your way, in Christ Name, Thank You, Lord!

Luke 19:1-10


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Just do it!

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Don’t betray a thought of consideration. If you think to do it, DO IT!

From “Goodbye, Things”, a book by Sasaki.


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What do you need to catch and release?

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What do you need to catch and release?

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3 Ways to NOT Worry as a Single Parent

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3 to 6 Ways To NOT Worry

My first three tips for not worrying are

#1. Trust God according to Proverbs 3:5-6, which says, 

5 “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.

In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”

#2 tip is that you are not suppose to worry about tomorrow according to the bible at Matthew 6:34  which says, “Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day [is] the evil thereof.” 

My #3 tip is to ask yourself if all of your needs are met today.  Then reflect on Psalms 23. The very first verse says, “The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.” when I Look at Philippians 4:6-7 – “Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.”, I can’t help but think of a fourth tip. 

#4 tip is Be Thankful.  Because after all, 1 Peter 5:7 says,  “Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.” And 2 Timothy 1:7 says, “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” #5 tip is to remember that fear does not come from God.  Personally, I could have fear myself, right now, not knowing where my next client is going to come from and if they will sign up for my services.  So I go back to my own #1 tip to Trust God with all my heart and to acknowledge Him in all my ways. I have to remember and acknowledge that is is God who gives me power to get wealth as it states in Deuteronomy 8:18.  And my situation, my #2 tip to not worry about January’s rent because that is tomorrow’s worry and December’s rent is already paid.  And for #3, all of my needs are met today with gas in my car, food in my cupboards, I have clean clothes and I am in pretty good health even as I get over this cold.   

So if God said he was going to supply all of my needs according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:19), I have to count on that, believe that and not doubt those words.  CAN YOU? 

I love Isaiah 26:3 which says, “Thou wilt keep [him] in perfect peace, [whose] mind [is] stayed [on thee]: because he trusteth in thee.”  Couple that with the new testament verse of Philippians 4:7 which says, “And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”

So #6 tip is to Start Asking. Matthew 7:7 says to, “Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:” 

So why are your worrying?   Because it feels so big and almost overwhelming, I would imagine.  I can relate to that.  I have broken out in a rash over worry until the LORD had to tell me to cut it out. 

Have you seen that Bob Newhart video called, “Stop it”?  Check it out at on my Youtube playlist for Motivational videos:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ow0lr63y4Mw&list=PL7sD-JVPZtCVxJRbo8LT33SsSXBEuX9v2&index=15&t=7s or 


I realize it might not be that simple as in this video.  So I challenge to quote these scriptures to yourself for the next 10 to 30 days by putting your name in the scripture.  Make it personal to you.  Make it a personal prayer for your situation by praying the scriptures of God back to God who said his word would not return void, as it says in Isaiah 55:11  “So shall my word be that goeth forth out of my mouth: it shall not return unto me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto I sent it.” 

See how you feel after a month of quoting these scriptures. 

If you are a believer in Jesus Christ this is one way to renew your mind to the things of God and to renew your mind from the thinking of the world.  The world has lots of worry and anxiety in it. 

This is Nek’ka Migel and I would be happy to pray for you and your needs.  Because the scripture also talks about the power of 2 or 3 gathered in his name in Matthew 18,  verse20 “For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.”

Dear Single Parent, I was a single mom for 16 years and my time was not without worry.  I worried so much that I broke out in a rash until the LORD convicted me to story worrying. 

When my income was only about $560 and my rent was $330, I simply worried.  Yet when I started trusting the LORD, he provided for all my needs miraculously every month by the 15th of each month that my income was so low.  I did not have a car and those expenses during that time.  I did have two growing children and there was other debt to be paid.  God was faithful to me and I pray you trust Him to be faithful to you during this time of your life.  If you are on Facebook, check out the Consulting for Single Parents page that also has the individual groups listed for single moms or single dads

Donate to Single Moms Unite!, LLC providing scholarships for Single Parents to benefit from Consulting for Single Parents 

If you are a small business owner and have considered having a Prayer Intercessor for your business like the big corporations do, go to my Facebook page at Chaplains for Businesses

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I have landing pages for Single Parents or Small Business Owners on this site where anyone can sign up to be on the mailing list for emailed newsletters. 

Thanks for stopping by.  I hope you were encouraged.

My last post was titled:  Would Schools Benefit from Having a Chaplain.  

The scriptures used in this post came from https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Bible-Verses-About-Worry-And-Anxiety/ and https://www.biblegateway.com/

Matthew 6:25-34 – Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment?   (Read More…)

Philippians 4:6 – Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.

Philippians 4:13 – I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

Matthew 6:34 – Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day [is] the evil thereof.

Philippians 4:19 – But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.

Psalms 23:1-6 – (A Psalm of David.) The LORD [is] my shepherd; I shall not want.   (Read More…)

John 16:33 – These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.

Matthew 6:27 – Which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature?

Romans 8:28 – And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to [his] purpose.

In Christ Name,

Nek’ka Migel


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