Have you asked how to begin home schooling or remote learning? Just how do I begin this journey?
When I first tried to homeschool, I already had a desire to homeschool my girls, but the timing was not right. Nor did I have the grace to do such when they were preschoolers. How could it be so hard to teach my girls their colors and numbers? Yet it was not the right time.It was like I was striving too hard and they were not comfortable either.
We had just moved to another state in 2000 when troubled waters were upon us. I strongly believed, for their safety, it wasfinally time to homeschool my girls, doing the best job I could.So I took my daughters our of Kindergarten and First Grade public school.
How to begin home schooling or remote learning
Some of you have been thrust into this situation of remote learning or schooling at home. So, it is the right time for you to homeschool. I shared some tips, insights, and experiences that I had from homeschooling my two daughters for 12 years in the Beginner’s Guide to Homeschooling.
Home Schooling during crisis times can be very adventurous and enlightening to the needs and learning styles of your children.I learned so much about my daughters being their teacher as well as their parent. And I believe you could learn much about your children, as well.
For parents whose children were in public school before the Coronavirus Pandemic, they might have been ‘lumped in’ with children of various learning styles at school. Now youfind yourself faced with deciding how to help your children succeed in their schooling but at home.Coaching is available.
In Beginner’s guide to Homeschooling, you can read about learning styles, finding curriculum and how my local community helped shaped my family’s homeschooling experience and hopefully how it can help you shape your learners into well prepared students for the upcoming school years.
Have you ever struggled with money? I was just looking at my journal, on October 7, 2000, to see I had written that I had a struggle with money…the lack thereof.
While in the spirit of poverty or having a poverty mindset, I would go to a local store, spend $10 so I could get a free bus pass. After awhile, I thought it would be so much simpler to buy a monthly bus pass until my car came, the car I was praying for. I was constantly praying for a new-to-me car.
I felt that I couldn’tt afford a monthly bus pass on my current manifested income…actual dollars in my checkbook. I know that the LORD has is all, owning all the silver and gold as it says in the bible at Haggai 2:8 and that he owns the cattle on a thousand hills, Psalms 50:10. I did not have the faith at that time to believe God would cover a monthly bus pass.
So in dealing with my current income, I was trying to not be bitter over that fact that my former husband was not paying all the income he was court ordered to do. I was living on half of what was ordered. And I asked myself, What is wrong with wanting every cent due me? Was that vengeance, pride or greed? I kept thinking that things would not be so hard, financially, if I was getting all the money that I was suppose to get.
I was even trying to use the bus transfer option which would normally allowed me to transfer to a completely different bus route. So I was using the bus transfer that would allow me to have an hour before returning on the same bus route. I tried to use my bus transfer instead of having to put in 65 cents to return home on the bus.
Because I was not totally trying to abuse the system and I did not feel I had the 65 cents, I would just walk back home with my girls in tow. I hated begging people for a ride. It was not like I had a standing offer for rides all the time. I didn’t mind asking if the subject came up or if I knew a person was going to be out driving already. So I continued to pray for the right perspective on how to get around town.
That evening, I was remembering the scripture that said to not be envious at the prosperity of the wicked. I was hearing from my relatives that my ex-husband had bought a house. At the time, I was still living in a little apartment. When I talked to my then 20 year old son, he told me how he had a lap top, a PC, a nice apartment with no debt. I was still dealing with the debt of the divorce. I had no car and I only had a word processor. My girls, then five and six years old, and I would walk to the library to use the 3 computers for each of us.
So that scripture came back to me of not being envious of wicked men and their prosperity. Though it seemed like I was the only one not doing well…financially. At that time, I did have peace and safety from the LORD. I don’t know if my ex and son were living for the LORD in their apparent richness.
These thoughts came to me as I was walking one day with my girls trying to save that 65 cents instead of riding the bus:
I thought, No More! From this point on, I am going to spend the 65 cents to ride the bus when I need to, when it is raining, when I am too tired to walk, or whenever I feel the Holy Spirit leading me to do so.
So, on Oct. 8, 2000, I had a realization:
I am not limited by my limited income. I am not.
So here is another concept that used to bug me. Whenever I wanted to do something nice for my girls like take them out for a Happy Meal, I would go through the drive thru and HOPED no one had seen me especially anyone who knew I was a “poor” single mom. I did not want to be judged as squandering my money. Yet, how would any one know how I scraped and saved to be able to treat my girls once a month? Who really knows if I was blessed with a gift and part of my giving back is giving to my girls?
At a later time, I can tell you the story of how someone blessed me with $300 for Christmas and I sensed the HOLY Spirit was telling me to give my daughters a $100 each for Christmas. I thought, WHAT?!?!? It was one of those times when you think you could not possibly be hearing from God. So I’ll let you know the outcome of that in another story. Just know that God is good…All the time.
During this time of my life, I did not feel like a Million Bucks like I did just the year before in 1999. Then, I felt like a million bucks and like I would be a millionaire. But in October of 2000, struggling to pay 65 cents for a bus pass and hearing how my ex-husband and son seemed to be prospering, I felt like a single ghetto mom living below the poverty line. And then the revelation came: “I am not limited to or by my limited income.”
In the natural, it looks like my income is limited. But God’s resources to me are not limited. He has caused men and women to give into my bosom, good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over it states in Luke 6:38. God can move any number of people with any number of dollars until he releases me to make my own income.
You have to understand that during this time, my calling was to be a stay-at-home mother of my two young daughters. God was not allowing me to go out and get a public job or pursue a business in home. I was homeschooling my two girls full time in Kindergarten and First Grades. I simply made due with what he provided, obeying God’s leading to stay at home.
I’ll have to tell you a side note. When the Police Auxiliary called up every year asking for donations, I would kindly tell them that I was putting my extra dollars back into my daughters so that they wouldn’t be on the streets as teenager and in their twenties needing the police to help curtail their evil doings against society. I felt I was doing my part for the Police by training my girls up right so they would not be gang bangers. It was times like this that made me confident in God’s calling on my life to be a stay-at-home mother, limiting the evil that my girls were exposed to over the years. I did graduate them from 12th grade homeschool. So on with the story….
Here it is 2017 and I am looking at my journal of October 2000, being reminded of a word to my spirit just the month before: “God has a greater work for you more than you can imagine. Just stay FAITHFUL!”
It did take great faith to remain a stay-at-home mom when my daughters wanted me to get a car so we were not walking so much. And when they wanted a computer, I reminded them that we would still have to share that ONE computer.
Sometimes, we let our feelings shipwreck what God has spoken to our spirits. Sometimes, we let other people shipwreck God’s vision for our life by their words of limited understanding. If I had listened to people, I would not have been in California experiencing the beginnings of coming out of a poverty mindset. I could have been still (stuck) in North Carolina because people thought I was uprooting my girls. Also, my own feelings could have kept me in North Carolina when I didn’t have the money to move as I believed God was directing.
Or I could have been stuck in Ohio, where my parents were begging me to not move to North Carolina. I told my mother, who is still alive as of this writing, that I could not even justify praying to God, if I got into future trouble in Ohio, after I felt God directing me to move to North Carolina. Obedience to God was very important to me! And still is to this day.
Remember the scripture that says that God owns the cattle upon a thousand hills (Psalms 50:10) and how God owns all the silver and gold (Haggai 2:8)? He will and does place people strategically in our lives to get his purposes accomplished. So God did work out a miracle for me to move to California…more than one financial miracle…just in the nick of time.
On October 8, 2000, a Sunday evening, I recorded the decision I made:
From feeling so poor, I decided that I was going to ride the bus when I needed to even by putting money in the coin box on the bus and not scheming with bus transfer, getting rides and constantly going to that one (expensive) grocery store to spend $10 just to get a free bus pass. It was like I was enabling my poverty mentality.
No one had challenged me with this question,
“What is 65 cents? Just plop it down and go where you have to!”
I was limiting myself by my limited income and possible limiting the Holy One of Israel (Psalm 78:41)
My not spending 65 cents when I needed to was like complaining when I probably had 65 cents on me. It was like I was concerned for tomorrow. It was like, if today I ride the bus, what happens if I REALLY, REALLY NEED to ride the bus tomorrow? The bible tells us to not take thought for tomorrow for today has sufficient sorrows. Read it at Matthew 6:34.
Also, my trying so hard to get a free bus pass was taking a gamble that they were still giving away free bus passes. Suppose I spent that money in that expensive grocery store and got to the cashier to find they had discontinued that program? Now what?
Mark 10:27b, with God all things are possible. The bible doesn’t add that only with certain circumstances, all things are possible with God.
I claimed this scriptures for me and I accepted it on Oct. 9, 2000 at 9:12 pm.
Out of Egypt
Poverty draws a line and dares you to step over it!
And because of poverty, people also draw a line for you and dare you to step over it. What do you think the Welfare system does for people? It provides but it also limits.
It’s like you can’t ever go out to eat, behind that line of poverty. Forget having a cell phone or a nice car. Appearances cause people to judge and try to force one behind the lines of Assumed and Presumed Poverty. I would like to think that another person would not want that to happen to them. But we sometimes do it to ourselves…like the unwritten code of poverty.
I can remember sitting with some trustees of a church who were helping me with my budget. It was almost comical in that I had hardly any money and not enough to pay all of my bills. What would the meeting have done for my budget? If I have 500 dollars and my bills are 600, how do you budget that? Logic would reason that you can never go out to eat, have a cell phone or drive a car.
But God…. But God in his infinite mercy and wisdom has it all under control if you let Him have It! You have to surrender the areas of your finances to God. So many Christian people think that they are surrendered to God yet they really don’t surrender all areas of their life to God.
Now granted, sometimes it is not on purpose. Sometimes, you just don’t realize a certain area is not surrendered. So I am not hating on ignorance, the act of not knowing. You can’t do something about somethings you don’t know…until you find out.
Once you know you have been holding back and not surrendering an area to the LORD, then you have a choice. Yes, God still gives us free will even in surrendering to Him.
So once I stepped over the line of poverty and started to not have a poverty mindset, I started viewing money differently. I was much more free to obey God’s leading in my everyday life now that I surrendered my financial area of life to the LORD and not let my limited income dictate so much to me. And I stop letting people’s EXPECTATIONS of me in my financial situation dictate to me how I would be, where I would go, what I would do, how I dress, how I carry myself and so on.
And do you know, when I started dating a couple of years later, the men I dated thought I was rich. Some of them were shocked that I lived in a little apartment. They were so called drawn to me because they thought I would help them out in their financial situations. Can you imagine that? I was still getting the same amount of money as when I was in the spirit of poverty except for a couple of cost of living increases which was not substantial by any means. But I suddenly looked different to men. My scent had changed….(Jeremiah 48:11). I was no longer captive to the poverty mindset.
So back to the church trustee meeting over my finances. They could only offer suggestions of things to cut out like cable TV or stamps to mail letters to my friends. Really, those were my only entertainment at that time. There was another time, a couple of years later, where my outgo extended past my income. But God…God made a way before the 15th of each month to have all of my bills paid and my needs met for me and my girls. Trust Him! It works.
I no longer felt guilty when the LORD let me make extra purchases or led me to so something that cost more than I would have thought to pay. I dared to step over the line of poverty and not let my limited income in the earth realm limit the possibilities for how God would use me and what he could call me to do.
Case in point, I learned to move to another home with much more ease. Even though I knew a move out of state was upcoming, the Lord would NEVER let me save up for it. God would always do a financial miracle for me to move. And it was not always someone writing a big check to cover all of my moving expenses. That only happened once in the 5 moves I made across the country. I learned to have more faith that could would provide where he was guiding me.
So have you ever felt like someone was saying about your situation, How dare you? I felt like people were silently challenging me, mentally saying, “How dare she step across that line of poverty!”
As of this writing, at the end of 2017, I continue to trust the LORD for my finances. I continue to seek his will for my daily activities. Do you?
I hope you enjoyed this story of how 65 cents changed my life and began my process of coming out of the poverty mindset.
My name is Nek’ka Migel. I am a grateful believer in Jesus Christ, my Lord and Savior. Thanks for reading and I do hope you will comment and share your story with others.
Hello. My name is Nek’ka Migel. I was a single mom for 16 years. I homeschooled my 2 children from Kindergarten to 12th grade. When they graduated from High School they went directly into college. One got her 2 year certificate in Baking and the other has 4 years and running studying Mechanical Engineer. Both daughters have had their own businesses.
One has done designer baking and the other has a web design business. I would say they were successfully released into the world with many relational skills and the ability to live on their own successfully without my paying their way or having them move back home after college. I am very happy for their success and their ability to make things work for their lives.
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There are 5 areas for Single Parent consultation.
1. Emotional and Spiritual Stability
2. Child Rearing and Parenting skills
4. Business ideas/Job helps
This consultation process is to help guide you to make your own choices out of the tools I present or the thoughts that come to your mind as I speak and present short stories and local resources available. I am not a Licensed Counselor but can refer you to another place if that is what you need. I am more of a Peer Consultant who has experienced being a single parents and have victory over many areas in my life. I am happy to share these experiences with you as they pertain to your life’s upcoming victories.
The reason I charge a nominal fee is because I have discovered that many people do not respect free. But when there is “skin in the game”, they stay committed to the process or at least to begin the process. Also, my time is valuable and if I travel to meet you in a coffee house, the gas in my car, cost dollars.
If you are here, you have decided to do the work necessary to get you to your next level. So let me hear from you what you think you need. The purpose of having one to one consultations is to get specific information to you for your own life.
Area 1: Emotional and Spiritual stability.
What makes me a good authority on this matter is because I have stable emotions and I can share some ways to think and pray, if you are a praying person, to arrive at stable emotions. I can be a peer consultant for PTSD as I am on my own journey and have made great strides in setting healthy boundaries and being able to enforce them. I can be a peer consultant for alcoholism. I have been 30 years without abusing alcohol and the temptation to drink out of necessity has been gone for 30 years.
I have been a Christian for 30 years and have a good working knowledge of the Christian Holy bible and I have a good relationship with Our Father in Heaven. So I believe I can be a good support in this area as well. For more information on the ministry that I have done in my 30 years of being a Christian, I will refer you to the Video Resume for my being a Prayer Intercessor. I also have a written copy if desired in my Chaplains for Businesses Newsletter.
So, what is your why for wanting to have greater emotional and spiritual well being? How would this stability help you to get to your next level in life? Part of this consultation requires you to think about your life and where you want to go. My job is to help you in the good direction that you have chosen already. So let’s get started.
Across the nation, there are a variety of organizations that can help you.
1. Stephen’s Ministry is designed to come along a gender to gender person going through an issue of life that is not too extreme yet it might be painful such as the death of a spouse or other love one, a divorce or you just can’t seem to keep working.
2. Celebrate Recovery helps a person deal with their hurts, habits and hangups. It is here that I gained a year of setting healthy boundaries and I continue to work on procrastination and fear. They also help with alcohol and substance abuse like a secular AA meeting might. Celebrate Recovery is Christian based.
3. National Abuse Hotline is 800-799-7233. The call is anonymous and they are trained very well to hear your situation before responding verbally on the phone. When I have called, they have never steered me wrong.
4. Healing Rooms are all over the USA. This is another place you can get Christian prayer in addition to the prayer time you might have at your local church. All Prayer Intercessors are vetted before they are allowed to serve.
And in your individual city there are other organizations that give a person a hand up. In the Boise area, there is
1. Weekly prayer available at Sacred Heart Catholic Church. They offer Christian prayers.
2. F.A.C.E.S. for classes on abuse and self defense. 208-577-4403
3. WCA for the abused woman or man, call 208-343-3688. They have a number of resources such as a financial literacy class and a court advocate to make suggestions for how you can get further help on your legal case.
I am also familiar with a number of church denominations and would be happy to share that knowledge if you are looking for a new church home.
Here are a few questions to ask yourself before I send the official survey that you will email back to me before we do the one to one consultation.
What is your purpose in life? Do you know your top priorities in life? What is your vision?
This concludes the introduction to the first area of Consulting for Single Parents in the area of Emotional and Spiritual Stability. Stay tuned for the introduction to Child Rearing/Parenting.
As you can probably see, these questions and scenarios could fit any people group regardless of marital status. My why in life is to give back to single parents. I was helped so much as a single mom that I want to help other single parents. I have already helped a number of single parents and maybe, just maybe, I can help you, too.
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I want to share with you about multiple streams of income.
What is your passion for 2015? What is your top passion?
Make a list of your
What you like to do…
Are these things possible? Are they marketable?
Do you have some inventions inside of you?
Can you patent the idea?
Ask yourself, Who is my market?
Who am I selling to, already or who should I be selling to?
Who do you know that could help you?
I believe in not putting all of your eggs in one basket and being open to other possibilities.
If one basket fails that doesn’t mean that the other basket will too.
As a single stay at home mom for 16 years,
I could do a number of things for income:
I could do things such as teach piano lesson for which I had ability and natural talent. But it was not at the top of my list for passion which means I was not passionate enough to keep giving piano lessons.
I could also teach other kids and tutor since I had the ability and knowledge to home school my two girls from kindergarten to 12th grade. I do have a passion for teaching.
Years ago I started a temporary employment agency and I did many of the office jobs for hire. I organized files and answered phones for other businesses.
As a single mom, that came in handy when a friend of mine needed to be away from her office and she could forward her calls to my phone. That was a source of income making money at home. It was an ability or acquired knowledge from previous experience.
For 5 years I braided my girls hair. That’s an ability but not one of my top passions. But I was offered a job braiding someone’s hair and it gave me some pocket change. I still have that ability to do hair today, but that is not my top passion.
I had experience as a prayer counselor as well as traveling with the pastor doing healing services and teaching about healing. Now I can do prayer counseling for businesses by providing prayer counseling to the business owner and even do devotions for the employees. That is one of my abilities and it is a passion for me.
We can all find someone that could benefit from our knowledge. Ask yourself, “Can I market that knowledge?”
I have computer skills (knowledge and abilities) at least the basics of how to use a computer and to navigate around it. So during my years while owning a Temp Agency, I was hired to go in and learn the employer’s computer system. When they hired the new employee, the employer called me in to train that new employee.
I also taught my girls all (the knowledge) I could about computers (my talent for learning) and they have far exceeded me especially my daughter who just introduced President Obama. She now has had her own Web Design business for a few years. See her website info below.
My daughter started in our living room using our home computer where I was the computer guru and her asking me for help with the computer. Now, I go to her for help! She has the great abilitiesknowledge in that area.
I am often accused of not paying attention because I’m taking notes, (a talent, ability and desireto write). I take lots of notes… while sitting and thinking, while networking, at church or just talking to someone one to one. I do this so I don’t have to rely on my memory.
Is that marketable? You bet!
One day I was on a temporary job assignment and they were so impressed with my note taking that after my temp job had ended they hired me again to come in and use those notes to train their brand new employee who was going to be full time.
It is astounding what can be marketed and become multiple stream of income for you out of your own passions, your knowledge, your natural abilities and talents.
So today, multiple streams of income for me would be,
teaching which I am doing on a volunteer basis at my church. I am currently teaching a Boundaries class on Tuesdays for nine weeks.
I could share the knowledge that I’ve learned from network marketing one on one with a person which is one of the reasons I started the Single Moms Unite!, LLC group which is a networking group to help single working moms create community among themselves in faith, parenting and business.
I have the desire to write a book which is marketable of course.
I have a couple of published articles in the OSL Healing magazine.
I co- wrote a manual for a church as well as the manual for my temporary employment agency.
This is marketable. I was recently asked to help train people who are new to this country to know how to work better, using my employment manual.
I currently do a MLM that you can read on choose-to-succeed.org.
One of the things they tell you about networking and working with business builders is what you do has to be duplicatable. That means, what you teach to others should be easy to duplicate. That does not mean that you can not have your own special and unique touch. Each person that can have their own unique skill or gift to their community, clients and friends. That is something that does not have to be duplicated. That’s something that you don’t have to teach to others. You are a gifted individual. Be the individual that you are while teaching good skills in that can be duplicated.
So you heard me talk about teaching my kids about the computer and now my one daughter has her own web design business. My girls packed our home with me many times and they later also got a job packing someone’s home. I also taught them about filing and they got a job with a friend of mine organizing her office. After watching me homeschool for a few years, they had the ability and got a job to tutor a Kindergarten boy and his grades improved so much that he did not have to repeat Kindergarten. And they were paid to tutor. Someone benefited from my girls knowledge when they were still in primary school.
So in your world if you are networking to do business, you can teach others, like in your downline, to network. Or if you are good at doing trade shows, you can teach that as well, making what you do for business, duplicatable.
I think the biggest key to having all these talents and abilities and making them marketable and making money at them is scheduling.
You need to schedule and make a schedule.
Schedule your study time for your business, studying your products or services and the rules & regulations.
Schedule your promotion time.
Schedule your work time on your desk and with clients.
And schedule your follow-up time.
My encouragement to you if you’re interested in multiple streams of income, even if it’s just 2 or 3 streams, to schedule it.
Make a schedule to do a little every day.
Don’t give up.
Get good counsel for what you should focus on whether it is through prayer and/or wise counselors.
My husband has multiple streams of income such as being a flight instructor.
He does AdvoCare which is a weight loss and getting trim program. He is a welder by trade with years of experience.
He is also a certified home inspector.
And a license insurance adjuster.
It is all about scheduling your day, your week, or your month.
Writing out your goals, your vision, dreams and desires.
These are my thoughts and ideas about Multiple Streams of Income. They can be simple ideas of service to others such as babysitting or doing chores for someone in their home to intricate MLM (Multi-Level Marketing businesses) to more complicated forms of income by forming a Corporation.
A good referral for me would be a person who needs to have their will done or need some legal counsel. Another good referral for me would be someone who wants to make some extra money and build a business. I am passionate about helping others.
If you have any questions feel free to schedule a one to one with me or give me a call. I would love to chat with you.
There is a reply button here where you can give me your email and phone number. Just in case I have problems with the email and write on there which business you are interested in or if you want to schedule a one to one, if you are local to me.