What is Cultish behavior?

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What is Cultish Behavior?

Do you ever feel like you are caught in someone’s web?  Like being in warm water and all of a sudden the water is boiling? 

What would you DO when someone seems to be playing God in your life? 

What would you do if your rights were being denied to be an individual person and make decisions as the adult you are?  Does this sound like a cult? 

Even if it is not, it is definitely cultish behavior.  You might find out if there were any controlling situations in that person’s life…if you care to know.  Sometimes, when I have prayed for people, I have gotten quicker results when I knew some of the roots to their behavior.   

Ladies, I have had men in my life that decided what was right for me, how to dress down to the length of my skirt.  And you might ask why I would listen!  FEAR. 

Fear of them leaving.  Fear of being alone.  Fear of financial struggles.  Fear.  But today, I trust God and I don’t fear what man will DO TO me or not do FOR me.  It doesn’t stop cultish people from coming into my life. 

So hopefully, I will see the signs a little better and a little faster to raise my hand like the singer who said, Stop…in the name of Love.  Though my lyrics will probably be, Stop or I’ll… and you can fill in the blank.   

As a Christian, we all have the right to hear from God for ourselves.  As an adult, we all have the right to make right or wrong choices.  Do you ever hear people using maxims, certain proverbs or even scriptures to try to control or manipulate you?  What are they fearing? 

They might have some fears that cause them to want to control you.  I don’t know if you can or if you want to reassure them of anything, but it’s worth a shot…if they are worth the shot.   So watch out when people use other sayings to justify their standing, their position or even their reasoning. 

Some people have a Cult of One and they are working hard to draw you in, to sign you up for their cult so that they are not alone.  Don’t allow yourself to get isolated.  Once they have you as their follower, they might not stop with you.  Or maybe they will. 

When I was in a cult, I didn’t know it.  But when they made some grandiose statements to my destiny saying I could not progress in life without joining them, it just didn’t resonate with me so I didn’t join.  I just didn’t have a peaceful feeling that they were correct. 

Then the next year, I met someone who was the Cult of One.  They had lost their previous followers and I was the next fish on the hook.  And I got hooked.  It took a few years to get out.  And I am glad to be out.  The brainwashing is still there influencing me some. 

But as I study God’s words in the bible, I am able to be more and more free.  One thing that I love in life is a two way conversation, a two way relationship.  If things always go their way especially for major decisions, you might consider if you are in a cult of one.  I am trying to be delicate here only because you who have been affected know what I speak of.  But I do not want to condemn you.  I want to share knowledge so that the truth you know will set you free.  I will say a prayer for you to get out of any organization or cult of one or two or three as soon as you can. 

Children can get caught in their parent’s cult.  With their parents teaching them personalize doctrines.  We don’t use that word when looking into dysfunctional families.  But why not?  Why not call it what it is and deal with it based on truth and use the tactics to help intervene for innocent parties.  Or maybe I am just the naive one in what things like this are called. 

I feel for you, dear soul, who are caught in the web.  The web of lies and manipulation.  My heart yearns to see you free even as I write this and you read this. 

One way that I got my mind set free was to read Tyndale Daily Bibles.  Reading through the bible everyday set my mind free so much that it was causing problems as the Cult of a few that I was in was slowly losing one of their members:  me. 

Life was not easy during that time.  Eventually, I had the strength and a word from the LORD to move away.  It was so subtle, the abusive ways, the controlling manner plus I was naive.  Young and Naive. 

One author that I read regularly is, Doug Addison.  His books are so simple to me yet life changing.  I specifically recommend, Personal Development God’s Way by Doug Addison. 

Anyway, I just wanted to share some of my thoughts today.  The stories above are from years and years ago.  And as I meet new controlling people, it depends on how controlling they are and how much power they are trying to exert over me that I would call them a Cult of one.  And they are probably alone because others have put up with their mess enough that they have said, enough is enough. 

If you want to have a personal conversation about getting out of your situation or just to discern if that IS your situation, I would love to chat with you.  I do this for a living in consulting with people by offering spiritual guidance, the Christian way. 

But for you, dear soul, I will give you a free 15 minute session.  Just go to one of my landing pages at the top of this page.  One is for Single Parents and the other is for Small Business owners. It doesn’t matter which one.  You pick.  Just contact me here or on any other social media. See links below.

You can even email me at nmigel@choose-to-succeed.org.  Thanks for stopping by and I am hoping you are reading this for a friend and that you are free…free… free as a bird! Oh, and I just thought of another book if you know you are in an abusive situation that could help identify situation and also tell you what you do to provoke the situation which might not be easy to hear…but it’s the truth that will set you free.  The book is by Lundy Bancroft, Called Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men.

My name is Nek’ka Migel.  And that’s what I know about that subject.  Nek’ka’s Niche is everything I know about SOME things.

Sincerely,

and In Christ Name,

Nek’ka Migel,

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Nek’ka Migel was a single stay at home mother for 16 years, homeschooling 2 of her 3 children from K to 12th grade.  Her children went on to college and have done quite well for themselves.

Through Consulting for Single Parents, Nek’ka can help a single parent in 5 different areas: 

Emotional and Spiritual Stability, Child Rearing/parenting, Wardrobe/dieting/exercising, Business ideas/job helps, Financial/Budgeting plans. 

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In Christ Name,

Nek’ka Migel

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Consulting for Single Parent on Emotional and Spiritual Stability

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Hello.  My name is Nek’ka Migel.  I was a single mom for 16 years.  I homeschooled my 2 children from Kindergarten to 12th grade.  When they graduated from High School they went directly into college.  One got her 2 year certificate in Baking and the other has 4 years and running studying Mechanical Engineer.  Both daughters have had their own businesses.

One has done designer baking and the other has a web design business.  I would say they were successfully released into the world with many relational skills and the ability to live on their own successfully without my paying their way or having them move back home after college.  I am very happy for their success and their ability to make things work for their lives.

Consulting for Single Parents is a dba of Single Moms Unite!, LLC.  There is a Facebook page that you and your friends can like: click here.  There is a closed Facebook group for single moms: click here and a closed group for single dads: click here

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There are 5 areas for Single Parent consultation.

1. Emotional and Spiritual Stability

2. Child Rearing and Parenting skills

3. Wardrobe/Dieting/Exercising

4. Business ideas/Job helps

5. Financial/budgeting

This consultation process is to help guide you to make your own choices out of the tools I present or the thoughts that come to your mind as I speak and present short stories and local resources available.  I am not a Licensed Counselor but can refer you to another place if that is what you need.  I am more of a Peer Consultant who has experienced being a single parents and have victory over many areas in my life.  I am happy to share these experiences with you as they pertain to your life’s upcoming victories.

The reason I charge a nominal fee is because I have discovered that many people do not respect free.  But when there is “skin in the game”, they stay committed to the process or at least to begin the process.  Also, my time is valuable and if I travel to meet you in a coffee house, the gas in my car, cost dollars.

If you are here, you have decided to do the work necessary to get you to your next level.   So let me hear from you what you think you need.  The purpose of having one to one consultations is to get specific information to you for your own life.

Area 1:  Emotional and Spiritual stability.

What makes me a good authority on this matter is because I have stable emotions and I can share some ways to think and pray, if you are a praying person, to arrive at stable emotions.  I can be a peer consultant for PTSD as I am on my own journey and have made great strides in setting healthy boundaries and being able to enforce them.  I can be a peer consultant for alcoholism. I have been 30 years without abusing alcohol and the temptation to drink out of necessity has been gone for 30 years.

I have been a Christian for 30 years and have a good working knowledge of the Christian Holy bible and I have a good relationship with Our Father in Heaven.  So I believe I can be a good support in this area as well.  For more information on the ministry that I have done in my 30 years of being a Christian, I will refer you to the Video Resume for my being a Prayer Intercessor.  I also have a written copy if desired in my Chaplains for Businesses Newsletter.

So, what is your why for wanting to have greater emotional and spiritual well being?   How would this stability help you to get to your next level in life?  Part of this consultation requires you to think about your life and where you want to go.  My job is to help you in the good direction that you have chosen already.   So let’s get started.

Across the nation, there are a variety of organizations that can help you.

1. Stephen’s Ministry is designed to come along a gender to gender person going through an issue of life that is not too extreme yet it might be painful such as the death of a spouse or other love one, a divorce or you just can’t seem to keep working.

2. Celebrate Recovery helps a person deal with their hurts, habits and hangups.  It is here that I gained a year of setting healthy boundaries and I continue to work on procrastination and fear.  They also help with alcohol and substance abuse like a secular AA meeting might.   Celebrate Recovery is Christian based.

3. National Abuse Hotline is 800-799-7233.  The call is anonymous and they are trained very well to hear your situation before responding verbally on the phone. When I have called, they have never steered me wrong.

4. Healing Rooms are all over the USA.  This is another place you can get Christian prayer in addition to the prayer time you might have at your local church.  All Prayer Intercessors are vetted before they are allowed to serve.

And in your individual city there are other organizations that give a person a hand up.  In the Boise area, there is

1. Weekly prayer available at Sacred Heart Catholic Church.  They offer Christian prayers.

2. F.A.C.E.S. for classes on abuse and self defense. 208-577-4403

3. WCA for the abused woman or man, call 208-343-3688.  They have a number of resources such as a financial literacy class and a court advocate to make suggestions for how you can get further help on your legal case.

I am also familiar with a number of church denominations and would be happy to share that knowledge if you are looking for a new church home.

Here are a few questions to ask yourself before I send the official survey that you will email back to me before we do the one to one consultation.

What is your purpose in life? Do you know your top priorities in life?  What is your vision?

This concludes the introduction to the first area of Consulting for Single Parents in the area of Emotional and Spiritual Stability.  Stay tuned for the introduction to Child Rearing/Parenting.

As you can probably see, these questions and scenarios could fit any people group regardless of marital status.  My why in life is to give back to single parents.  I was helped so much as a single mom that I want to help other single parents. I have already helped a number of single parents and maybe, just maybe, I can help you, too.

Donate to Single Moms Unite!, LLC providing scholarships for Single Parents to benefit from Consulting for Single Parents 

Sincerely and

in Christ Name,

Nek’ka Migel 

Consulting for Single Parents

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“I have a Voice” to say “No!” to abuse!

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Interesting article for ones looking at abusive relationships in marriage and considering if divorce should be an option for themselves or someone they know.

If we don’t speak up, then others might think they are alone. If we do speak up, others can share insights, books, and resources as well as a special friendship to have during the rough times!

Nekka Migel

Here are some excerpts from this article written by Gary Thomas:

“Every divorce is the result of sin, but not every divorce is sinful.”

“When these men aren’t confronted, and aren’t repentant, they don’t change.”

“Our focus has to be on urging men to love their wives like Christ loves the church, not on telling women to put up with husbands mistreating their wives like Satan mistreats us. We should confront and stop the work of Satan, not enable it.”

“I’m not talking about the common struggles of living with a common sinner, or every man and woman could pursue divorce.”
Some women need to hear, “No, this isn’t normal. It’s abuse. You don’t have to put up with that.” Others need to hear, “We think what you’re facing are the normal difficulties of marriage and with counseling they can be overcome.”

“We are called to love marriage, but when marriage enables evil, we should hate it (love it less) in comparison to a woman’s welfare”

Read the full article by clicking on the link below!

http://foreverymom.com/marriage/enough-enough-church-stop-enabling-abusive-men-gary-thomas/

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I have a voice with Eyes Forward and Upward

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One of the things I have recently discovered is that the enemy of our soul, whether it’s the devil or an abuser in your life, would love to silence us.

You do have a voice!

Use it wisely!

If you live in the Boise area, there are people and classes that can teach you what abuse is.
For Ada County, call F.A.C.E.S. at 208-577-4400.

Get your voice back if you have lost it!

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