“One of the most critical spiritual exercises we can undergo is allowing God to heal our past wounds and guide us to a lifestyle of forgiving present scars. Without healing and forgiveness, other people’s mistakes will affect our future.”
“What past experience, trial, hurtful word, or person is still harmfully affecting your life today? Where do you need the Holy Spirit to come and speak healing over you?”
“We must forgive those people who hurt us so the scars in our lives become symbols of God’s redeeming love rather than reminders of painful events.”
“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28
“Receiving healing for wounds and the courage to forgive present scars is a constant process.”
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Do you ever feel like you are caught in someone’s web? Like being in warm water and all of a sudden the water is boiling?
What would you DO when someone seems to be playing God in your life?
What would you do if your rights were being denied to be an individual person and make decisions as the adult you are? Does this sound like a cult?
Even if it is not, it is definitely cultish behavior. You might find out if there were any controlling situations in that person’s life…if you care to know. Sometimes, when I have prayed for people, I have gotten quicker results when I knew some of the roots to their behavior.
Ladies, I have had men in my life that decided what was right for me, how to dress down to the length of my skirt. And you might ask why I would listen! FEAR.
Fear of them leaving. Fear of being alone. Fear of financial struggles. Fear. But today, I trust God and I don’t fear what man will DO TO me or not do FOR me. It doesn’t stop cultish people from coming into my life.
So hopefully, I will see the signs a little better and a little faster to raise my hand like the singer who said, Stop…in the name of Love. Though my lyrics will probably be, Stop or I’ll… and you can fill in the blank.
As a Christian, we all have the right to hear from God for ourselves. As an adult, we all have the right to make right or wrong choices. Do you ever hear people using maxims, certain proverbs or even scriptures to try to control or manipulate you? What are they fearing?
They might have some fears that cause them to want to control you. I don’t know if you can or if you want to reassure them of anything, but it’s worth a shot…if they are worth the shot. So watch out when people use other sayings to justify their standing, their position or even their reasoning.
Some people have a Cult of One and they are working hard to draw you in, to sign you up for their cult so that they are not alone. Don’t allow yourself to get isolated. Once they have you as their follower, they might not stop with you. Or maybe they will.
When I was in a cult, I didn’t know it. But when they made some grandiose statements to my destiny saying I could not progress in life without joining them, it just didn’t resonate with me so I didn’t join. I just didn’t have a peaceful feeling that they were correct.
Then the next year, I met someone who was the Cult of One. They had lost their previous followers and I was the next fish on the hook. And I got hooked. It took a few years to get out. And I am glad to be out. The brainwashing is still there influencing me some.
But as I study God’s words in the bible, I am able to be more and more free. One thing that I love in life is a two way conversation, a two way relationship. If things always go their way especially for major decisions, you might consider if you are in a cult of one. I am trying to be delicate here only because you who have been affected know what I speak of. But I do not want to condemn you. I want to share knowledge so that the truth you know will set you free. I will say a prayer for you to get out of any organization or cult of one or two or three as soon as you can.
Children can get caught in their parent’s cult. With their parents teaching them personalize doctrines. We don’t use that word when looking into dysfunctional families. But why not? Why not call it what it is and deal with it based on truth and use the tactics to help intervene for innocent parties. Or maybe I am just the naive one in what things like this are called.
I feel for you, dear soul, who are caught in the web. The web of lies and manipulation. My heart yearns to see you free even as I write this and you read this.
One way that I got my mind set free was to read Tyndale Daily Bibles. Reading through the bible everyday set my mind free so much that it was causing problems as the Cult of a few that I was in was slowly losing one of their members: me.
Life was not easy during that time. Eventually, I had the strength and a word from the LORD to move away. It was so subtle, the abusive ways, the controlling manner plus I was naive. Young and Naive.
One author that I read regularly is, Doug Addison. His books are so simple to me yet life changing. I specifically recommend, Personal Development God’s Way by Doug Addison.
Anyway, I just wanted to share some of my thoughts today. The stories above are from years and years ago. And as I meet new controlling people, it depends on how controlling they are and how much power they are trying to exert over me that I would call them a Cult of one. And they are probably alone because others have put up with their mess enough that they have said, enough is enough.
If you want to have a personal conversation about getting out of your situation or just to discern if that IS your situation, I would love to chat with you. I do this for a living in consulting with people by offering spiritual guidance, the Christian way.
But for you, dear soul, I will give you a free 15 minute session. Just go to one of my landing pages at the top of this page. One is for Single Parents and the other is for Small Business owners. It doesn’t matter which one. You pick. Just contact me here or on any other social media. See links below.
You can even email me at nmigel@choose-to-succeed.org. Thanks for stopping by and I am hoping you are reading this for a friend and that you are free…free… free as a bird! Oh, and I just thought of another book if you know you are in an abusive situation that could help identify situation and also tell you what you do to provoke the situation which might not be easy to hear…but it’s the truth that will set you free. The book is by Lundy Bancroft, Called Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men.
My name is Nek’ka Migel. And that’s what I know about that subject. Nek’ka’s Niche is everything I know about SOME things.
Do you experience push back on the job or in ministry?
What’s with the push backs?
I was just thinking about how people sometimes give you a run around when you want to help. Whether it is helping people or helping in a situation. The experiences I am about to share happened while I was a single stay at home mom. While you are reading them, you may see similarities to incidences in your life or job.
So, what is with the push back? Why can’t people accept our willingness to help them, to genuinely help them? Why can’t people just look at themselves, at what’s being said and examine where they are? What’s with the push back?
Even though I am not perfect, it does not stop me from helping others.
Aren’t we all on the road of life?
I know that the scripture says that I am to pull the beam out of my own eyes before I can see clearly to cast the mote out of my brother’s eye. (Matthew 7:5) So should I just leave a person in the deep hole they are in while I go and make amends to about 10 people, say 10 “Our Fathers”, and get counseling for a couple of months before I can mention one thing to another person about their issues?
I also understand the scripture that says it is in the spirit of meekness that you go to someone overtaken in a fault to restore them. Going in the spirit of meekness and thinking about yourself, helps you to not be tempted in the same way they were. (Galatians 6:1)
I just wonder, why time and time again, I have had leaders just not accept what I’m saying about a situation before they ask me what’s wrong with me, asking me, “What is the sin in your life?” Do I have to go through this drill before I can mention anyone else’s sin or not so good situation? When I am not confronting the leader but another co-laborer to me, in this instance, what is with the push back?
When someone is in leadership, their mess-ups could affect many people. I really don’t understand the fingers pointing back at me as to what’s in my life that I need to deal with, right as I bring up an issue. I regularly submit myself to Our Father in Heaven for my issues and I wait for God to let me know what I need to deal with. I am willing to deal with those things. People, who know me, know that about me.
Psalms 35:4
So, I don’t understand the deal with the push back from these men and women. I am reminded of at least one of the leaders who was giving me push back about an issue that was affecting other people. I found out a year or so later that this same leader was in sin, himself. So in a way, that makes more sense as to why HE was trying to point the finger at me being a whistle blower, bringing someone else’s stuff to the surface.
Sin consciousness will make you not so hard on sin in other people’s lives. It takes away your boldness sometimes. Sin consciousness might have you say that someone else’s stuff is not that bad. When others are affected negatively and in a needless way, it is still bad. It doesn’t matter how minor or major the issue might be. 1 Corinthians 15:33, says that “Evil communication corrupts good manners”. The Amplified bible says that “Bad company corrupts good morals.”
Firm yet Fair
In another incident, I got a 5 to 10 minute lecture on the issues that I probably have in my life. It was so off topic, it was ridiculous. I could not figure out why I had to go through such harassment to bring an issue to my leader. I was not gossiping to my friend. I went to someone who could do something about it by going to the next person in authority. I can say for this incident, that the not so innocent party was spoken to by the leader after our conversation and the issue was confirmed by the actual (guilty) party. And it was dealt with.
So I think that was the issue with my leader: He thought I was assuming because I didn’t have concrete proof. Yet the conversations that I was having with this individual was proof enough to me. And since he finally admitted fault, yes, there was a fault, I knew I had “guessed” right.
As human beings, we sometimes second guess ourselves. As we get older, we understand different dynamics of life a little better than when we were younger. So all things and all scenarios do not take a rocket science to deduce what is going on in some people’s lives. I am the first to say that I have a lot to learn about people. I believe with the help of the Holy Spirit, I saw through to what was really going on which was later confirmed.
“Don’t allow anybody to make you feel like you are nobody.”
It’s quite the concept and it makes sense that when I talk to others about the bad issues in someone’s life that I will get pushed back because the person I am talking to is in sin and doesn’t want to admit fault or be caught themselves. Maybe, it’s like the golden rule, kind of, in reverse. Since the leader does not want to admit fault, he won’t allow me to blow the whistle on anyone else’s issues or sin. He will try to stop me cold if he can harass me enough or get me to admit a fault of my own which might disqualify me from speaking up, possibly. Or at least get me to back down because I FEEL disqualified to speak at that moment.
…Don’t know if that is their logic.
All I know is that if the leader has a problem, it does not mean I have a current problem that I need him to dig out of my life and heart before I can share a concern. That is not staying on the subject. And if I need help in the future, I can return to talk to my leader about my issues. Although, with the way they are handling my concerns for a co-laborers, I might be hesitant to admit my own weaknesses to this same leader.
What’s with the push back
So why the push back? If a person really and truly cares about someone, it’s not that they’re perfect. They care. They want better for another person. They want better for the situation and for the people who are being affected by the situation. It’s not saying that the whistle blower is perfect.
It someone had to be perfect before calling attention to a harmful or potentially harmful situation, would there ever be any rebuking? The scripture does not say we have to be perfect (Galatians 6:1). It says we have to pull the log out of our own eyes. It says to go humbly, in the spirit of meekness. We go being aware of our own humanness and shortcomings.
So again, I ask, what’s with the push back?S i n. And sin consciousness. What a sad world it would be if there was no more rebuking in the world. What a sad world it would be.
Some people don’t want to be stopped. Others don’t want to be accused of being wrong. They want to do what they want to do when they want to do it. And no one is going to stop them, so they think.
I have run into people who are running from God. They do not accept the call on their life nor their responsibilities, sometimes. As a Christian, I don’t know how one decides what parts will be Christian and what parts they will compartmentalize into the controls of their own hands. How do you make arbitrary decisions like that? It’s mind-boggling to me.
So my answer to push back is, “What would Jesus do”. If he verbally answered, Jesus would answer with the word of God. So I must do that.
1 Peter 2:1-3
If Jesus reacted, He would react with grace, humbly and sometimes with righteous indignation but Jesus would not stay there, in anger. So I will not stay hurt or in anger.
I believe Jesus would cast down all imaginations and thoughts that operate contrary to the word of God. (2 Corinthians 10:5). So I must not let my mind run wild either on assumptions or untruths.
I believe Jesus would pray for leaders and individuals who were caught in sin and he would guide them in all truth. (John 16:13) And so must I. I would go so far as to pray, 2 Timothy 2:24–25, praying that “God would grant them repentance to the acknowledging of the truth”.
2 Timothy 3:6-7
Some people’s eyes are closed or half closed to the truth. Deception is hard to battle on your own when you have been believing a lie for so long. Or when a person is deceived to think that their stuff is not so bad, it can be hard to change or see the truth.
If you have gotten something from this article today, I hope you will clap for it on medium.com. I was so ramped up today when I first wrote this wondering why this situation keeps happening to me. But at last, a friend of mine told me that sometimes things, even bad things, keep happening so that we can form a response to those things.
Psalms 91:1,2,4,5
My name is Nek’ka Migel and writing this story today has helped me to see things more clearly as to why I get push back from leaders and others when it comes to pointing out faults in other people. I thought that others might benefit from reading about my experience. I did not want to name the exact sin since these people are still alive and hopefully they are dealing with their issues. That is my prayer for them.
. Reading through the bible everyday set my mind free so much that it was causing problems as the Cult of a few that I was in was slowly losing one of their members: me. 
by Doug Addison. 
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